Talking to Children about Trauma: Scared Excited Part I
How can we use emotional intelligence to talk with children about trauma, fear, or difficult topics? It starts with noticing and naming emotions.
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Insight and advice for parents and caregivers on creating an emotionally intelligent family. Also includes a few articles for kids.
Overcoming Urgency: How Emotional Intelligence Helps You Slow Down and Focus on What Truly Matters
If you ever feel stuck in urgency mode, emotional intelligence offers a way out — and a way back to what matters most.
Read MoreScared Excited: Talking to Children About Trauma
It’s difficult enough that, as parents, we struggle to find answers to the everyday issues with our kids, such as how to get them to eat more veggies, do their chores, and be kind to their siblings. When it comes to trauma and fear, parents get a little nervous about doing it right.
Read MoreThe Six Seconds Model of Emotional Intelligence: What It Is and How to Use It (+ PDF)
What is emotional intelligence and how do you practice it? Explore the Six Seconds Model of Emotional Intelligence to improve your life and relationships.
Read MoreEQ Education News: Am I Doing This All Wrong? 5 Tips for Parenting Shy Kids
Emotional intelligence skills are learnable at any age. In this month’s newsletter we explore the emotion Shy among children
Read MoreGetting Off the Trouble Train
“Have you ever found yourself in the middle a situation and you know it will to turn into a big mess? You can feel it slipping out of control… and yet you keep going. It’s as if you’re being pushed along this track; you know it’s going to lead to trouble, but it seems like there’s no choice.”
Read MoreDecoding Emotions
Smarter About Feelings: Part Two . Part One introduced the idea of becoming smarter about feelings — and how that can help you (kids) get more of what you want… and less of what you don’t want! In that article I promised that I’d also write more about emotions and the meaning behind our feelings. […]
Read MoreSmarter About Feelings
When I was a kid, no one taught me about emotions. They’re so powerful! And such a big part of our lives… here are the most important ideas every kid (and adult) needs to know about feelings.
Read MoreThe Myth of Winning: 3 Steps to Stand Together as Allies
Here’s why we make the boss, a colleague, a customer, spouses and lovers, and even our children into enemies — and a better way. It starts with our brains, and being addicted to the pleasure of righteousness.
Read MoreTechnology Loneliness: EQ Tips from Daniel Goleman
In the chaos of contemporary life, how do we maintain connection to self and others? Two of the world’s preeminent experts on emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman and Joshua Freedman, discuss in an engaging Q&A.
Read MoreFights Well with Others: Tips for Collaborative Parenting
Want less fighting at home? Three tips every parent can use to forge compromise. Bonus Poster for your fridge. Build trusting relationships with your children and even at work with Collaborative Parenting strategies.
Read MoreKids & Screen Time: 5 Practical Tips for Parents
As technology becomes increasingly enmeshed in every aspect of our lives, how can parents equip kids with the skills they need to thrive?
Read More9 Ways to Teach A Growth Mindset to Kids
Cultivating a growth mindset has been strongly linked to greater happiness and achievement in life. Here are 9 tips + strategies to give your kids the gift of a growth mindset.
Read MoreIlluminate: Perfectionism, Pt 1
Perfectionism is the excessive fear of making mistakes. This week, I invite you to pay attention to how perfectionism, or the fear of making mistakes, shows up in your life.
Read MoreEat Mindfully: 7 Tips for Practicing Emotional Intelligence with Meals
Practicing emotional intelligence around how we eat it is an often forgotten key to digestive health, according to digestive psychologist Caspar Poyck. Here are 6 ways to eat mindfully and feel better physically.
Read MoreBack to School with Hope and Maybe Something More?
Heading back to school, mixed with hope & fear. How can we help students (anyone) feel belonging and acceptance as they are — while also supporting them to keep growing?
Read MoreFrom Destruction to Life: A Case Study
When a child’s behavior devolves toward destruction, how can they find a way back toward health? A powerful story of how emotional intelligence helps.
Read MoreWant Less Conflict with Your Kids? Try Empathy
You’ve told your kid “a million times” and frustration is rising. What if there was another way to see the situation? Here’s a 90-second tip for parents to use empathy to diffuse conflict and frustration.
Read MoreHow to Increase Empathy in Children
The key to happiness is strong, lifelong relationships – and you build those with empathy. Here’s how to increase empathy in children.
Read More10 Simple Ways to Build Trust as a Parent
Parenting is the toughest job on the planet — it can be an emotional rollercoaster… so maybe emotional intelligence could help? Here are ten tips, and a free poster for your fridge.
Read More20 Outstanding Books on Emotional Intelligence
Here’s a wonderful collection of books about emotional intelligence, including six key concepts for every parent to share with children (and books to do so!)
Read MoreHow to Teach Children Emotional Intelligence for a Better World
When feelings run hot, how can we use emotional intelligence to fuel our commitment for positive change… and support children to create a better world?
Read MoreSupporting Children’s Rights through Strong Relationships
Mutually respectful relationships are a foundation for human rights. So how can children & adults use emotional intelligence to strengthen relationships?
Read MoreStressed for Good: Surprising New Science about Stress
Stress kills… or does it? In the light of new neuroscience, maybe it’s time rethink stress – which might just save your life.
Read MoreThe Way You Are
Is there a way to be unconditionally loving, and also to hold high expectations? As parents, can we love our kids “as they are” AND help them be better?
Read MoreFeel the Power: Flexing EQ
The use of power is central to our interactions as leaders, coaches, parents, and change agents. To be more effective, emotional intelligence will help us understand and tune up our own use of power and the ways people react to that. There are dozens, maybe hundreds, of different forms of power. All of these “work” in some sense. If they generate certain desired there are “benefits.” At the same time, each produces unwanted side effects, called “costs.” What are some of the forms of power that you have, and that you exercise? What happens when you exercise these different forms of power? What price do you pay for each such use?
Read MoreRight Speech by Eknath Easwaran
Karen McCown, Six Seconds’ Founder, handed this article to me several years ago. It’s stuck with me as a powerful set of guidelines for being impeccable with words. The children, Patty and I have discussed the “three gatekeepers” often over the last years; we started when the kids were 4 and 6 years old and […]
Read MoreAlone in the Parade
The drive to connect, to be accepted, is both glorious and brutal. It drives us to care and connect — and to engage in self-destructive behavior in a desperate bid to fit. The “thinness” of digital connection can’t actually be fixed by quantity — just as one can not get a healthy meal by eating a LOT of junk — but the thinness may drive people to want more.
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